How many of you guys out there - homosexuals - have contemplated over and over again the idea of coming out to their parents and/or friends? How many of you have gone through the following scenarios over and over again, only to come up with one result: NO CAN DO!
Scenario 1: Parents go crazy, dads yell, mothers scream and cry .. the whole indian drama
Scenario 2: Parents insists you get "treatment", start dragging you through a long painful tour of psychiatrists, psychologists and may be throw some local witch doctors into the mix
Scenario 3: Parents disown you and kick you out of the house
Scenario 4: Do all the above, in the exact same order!!
The point is, I don't get it! If homosexuality is a psycological disorder, then why are we blamed for being sick? Else, If homosexuality is a phisyological disorder, then why are we blamed for being a nature-defect? Last and not least, If homosexuality is simply natural - a claim supported majorly by homosexuals and faught against by all relegious figures and authorities - then why again are we being blamed for being merely God's creation, a creation that's simply different from the majority of God's creatures, in much the same way as He sometimes creates blind, deaf, mute, dis-membered babies!!!
I'm seriously open to any, ANY, explanation of homosexuality, tell me it's natural, tell me it's a disorder, tell me it's a disease, a curse, whatever, but just answer this: If it is ANY of the above, then why are we forced to feel remorse over something that we never adopted by choice? Acting upon homosexuality (by actually having a physical relationship with another person) IS A CHOICE, whereas BEING a homosexual is NOT! Why is it that difficult for heterosexuals to consume this simple fact?
AGAIN: I ... AM ... A ... HOMOSEXUAL ... I ... NEVER ... HAD ... A ... RELATIONSHIP ... WITH ... ANY ... GIRL ... BEFORE!
Will someone please tell me how does that make me a sinner and why should that make me so ashamed?
May be I'll contamplate more on possible answers in my next post. Stay tuned!
good morning cameo
ReplyDeletei really liked what u said,sure coming out to our parents means all of what u already mentioned,parents belive they want the very best always for us and the society and everything around them make them belive it is settling down for girls with a man and have a family and if one day we decided to come out to our parents,the consequences wont be good at all,i thought so many times about coming out to my family but u knwo it is very difficult ,they will get mad at me and they wont belive that im truly happy with the way i am,which makes me wonder sometimes if they want my happiness or want me to go with what society wants me to be
families want their childern to be happy but when we come out to them and say we r happy with the way we r they dont belive us,they think we have gone crazy and we will bring disgrace to the whole family,added to this it will shatter their dreams of seeing our childern,i dont belive homosexuality is a mental disorder nor does god hate us the way we r cause if he is then why he brought us into this world?
relegious people want us to belive this way so they can play with our minds and get us to belive we r going straight to hell with our attitude,i hate it when some of us says that what we do is better than a married woman who cheats on her husband cause we r not cheating anyone,we r comfortable with the way we r and if others found this uncomfortable then it is their problem not ours
thank u cameo for bringing this issue and im sure looking forwards to your next discussion,keep the good work girl:)
Hello just a girl ..
ReplyDeleteIt's funny, seems you've just posted this comment right now.
Glad I can have a rational discussion with someone who doesn't follow the normal trend i see over all lesbian blogs i've visited: either bashing homosexuality with insults and curses, or putting on the angry feminist (i dunno wut does homosexuality do with "hating men"!) who "hates you all" face :)
Speaking of comments, I like your blog a lot, but why are there no comments allowed?
thankx cameo for your nice comment and fruitful discussion
ReplyDeletewell i totally agree with u the majority of lesbian blogs either go on about hating men or talking about it from the religious side,i hate it when i hear a lesbian saying i know for sure it is a sin but im not having sex with my girlfriend yet still i love her ,i dont know why she bothers to call her her girlfriend in the first place if she knows for sure it is a sin and what makes true love a sin anyway
as u have seen the new trend about lesbians repenting and going on through lots of blogs saying they were lesbians and now they r cured,i wanna know how they get cured,it is quite astonishin to me how they can say this ,weird right?
thankx for your comment about my blog,well i thought it's gonna be fotos so no need for comments but sure if i decided to write something im gonna keep the comments open
keep the good work girl and good luck with your life
by the way what do u do for a living ,if it is asking 2 much im so sorry for that and im a dentist by the way:)
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ReplyDeletemmm, actually i don't mind it if people say that they're cured because i believe what they really mean is that "they got it under control"! Don't you just go through these phases when you think that "ok, i think i'm attracted to that guy .. mmm .. Oh my gosh! ... may be i'm not a homo afterall? may be it was just a phase?" ... then it probably hits you that you only like the guy, like you would like any girl, but the physical attraction is something else. because when it comes down to it, you are at least "more inclined" to a girl than a guy! I mean, lots of homos end up in a heterosexual marriage anyways, don't they? how can they do it? are they really cured or do they simply CONVINCE themselves that they are, just to beat the social pressure crab?
ReplyDeleteAs for the religious mouths out there, i dont really give a damn about their self-leashing anyways. I'm a practicing muslim btw, and to me, having sex outside marriage is a sin in all cases, be it a homo or hetero sex. Marriage is a social norm made to preserve human rights - of course its in my wildest dreams that any laws in this country can consume gay marriage in any near or far future, so for now, i'm just living with the fact that it can't happen. end of story :)
Well, since this is a "venting" blog, I say a bit too much and for obvious reasons I have to be paranoid about my identity being given away, so for now i can't really tell you my profession, but let me just say that it is in a creative field, and let this be a food for thought: did you notice that most homos are creative by nature? actors/actresses, painters, poets, musicians, singers, directors, fashion designers, etc. ? You for example obviously have your own creative talent, your choice of photos on your blog says that. Food for thought my dear ;)
Thanks for keeping my blog alive with this discussion. God knows how i need to vent about this with someone who shares same issue and will not judge me! :(
Btw, you may contact me on my mail cameo.of.life@gmail.com if you like of course.
well i have to agree with us about that phase,i went through it ,denying who iam but that was in the past when i was trying to figure out my true self and finding some guys attractive but when i used to think about intimacy they used to turn me off and i didnt know why even through that phase at school and my classmates and teachers 'thing i couldnt put it in words i was just enjoying being attracted to them and i remember others at school used to tease me about being abnormal and when my friends used to talk about having boyfriends i remember not being interested in hearing this or in having one so this just made me an introvert and trying not to socialize with them so that they wont pop up the question of being single and why i was one
ReplyDeleteit only irritated me when people r not true to themselves saying and doing something in secrecy and then goind against it and cursing it in public,i think it would have been much proper to just keep their mouth shut better than saying something they dont belive in
it is also in my wildest dreams that same sex marriage can be legal in our country as well as the arabic ones but like u said next to impossible but it doesnt hurt to dream right?
when i hear how it is much better in the west and more american states and european countries making it legal i feel happy for them but still u know homosexuals in the west r denyed lots of things like adoption in some states but when u look at our countries it is much better over there than here right??
i totally respect your privacy and im sorry if i was an intruder
yeah i noticed that most of the homos r creative by nature maybe also more sensitive
u know lots of beautiful artists like elton john ,george michael,ricky martin
it is my pleasure always dear to share some of my thoughts with u,u know it is good to talk to someone who can understand and never judge ,u know they r few these days
sure also my pleasure to contact u through emails,i wanted to do this but was afraid to ask so for sure u r gonna get an email from me soon:)
good nite cameo and keep it up girl:)